How middle-aged couples find their passion
“Old wife and wife” should also dress up. In addition to the spiritual resonance, Frank, a well-known marriage expert in the United States?
Pittman also advocates strengthening mutual attraction between husbands and wives by increasing psychological change and satisfaction.
The easiest way is to “add features of the opposite sex.”
According to the expert’s instructions, Petty bought a very beautiful new dress, also perm a new hairstyle, a little pink powder on the face, and the whole person looked completely new.
After seeing it, Allen felt his eyes light up, and it was really “the return of Yan who seemed to know each other”.
And Allen changed into a straight suit and shaved off the haw on his chin.
“In fact, Petty and Allen are still the same, but they have a freshness in each other’s heart.
This freshness is an attraction.
“Human love differs from other feelings such as mother and child feelings, friend feelings, etc. It is based on sexual intentions, and it is also called” sex attraction “.
Increasing the opposite sex characteristics of both spouses will naturally strengthen the charm of love.
In addition, men are visual animals, and various information received through the eyes can easily cause sexual excitement.
Therefore, there is nothing more exciting for a man than seeing a delicate and beautiful wife.
“Middle-aged women often have half-faced faces, sagging breasts, and their bodies have gradually lost their plumpness and beauty.
But if you often participate in fitness exercises and pay attention to grooming, it will help increase the attractiveness to the opposite sex, especially beautifying the image in the husband’s mind.
“Couples'” dressing “, in addition to changing clothes or putting on makeup, is also very important to modify temperament.
If the wife is usually used to speaking rough and rough, then occasionally the little bird depends on the person, and Wu Nong softly talks to her husband. If the husband is usually careless and does not care about his wife’s feelings, then pull the wife,Kneading the sickle for her and saying “You’ve worked hard” are all touching.
Some people think that lovers need to attract each other.
In fact, after forming a family, consciously strengthen the mutual attraction between husband and wife, thereby making your family life more pleasant.
Daily communication is about skills. Marriage is holding a cup of tea in both hands.
A woman is one hand of marriage holding tea; a man is the other hand holding boiling water.
The water-filled hand must know the warmth and coldness of the pouring water, and the tea-filled hand must know the quality of the tea.
”I have been exposed to many cases of middle-aged marriage crisis, a large part of which is caused by poor communication between couples.
At this time, love is still there, but the intimacy is discounted.
Someone once painted a “history map” for marriage, divided into four stages.
The first stage was the years of passion, and the love of the two made them invincible on the journey.
In the second stage, I was at a loss, and found that I didn’t even know what my spouse was thinking or saying.
In the third stage, the two found the way to go, but it was easy to argue and they were always dissatisfied with each other’s performance.
In the fourth stage, the two finally got used to each other. The road signs in their hearts became clearer, more forgiving, and tacit. They just held hands and went side by side.
When receiving the consultation, Petty and Allen acknowledged that they were at the intersection of the second and third stages, and they were confused about the future and disappointed by their partners.
There are 168 hours per week. Set aside three or four hours to communicate with your partner and make it your exclusive time.
When communicating, we must be open and honest with each other, but we must not exaggerate emotionally or blame the other party for not doing enough. We must try to analyze our own shortcomings in some aspects, why these problems occur.
If you feel that it is awkward to speak, or you cannot express your meaning clearly, it is better to write it down. One is to facilitate wording and the other is to avoid embarrassment.
Men need trust, women need care.
The husband must bear in mind that when the wife talks about her feelings, she must correctly understand her thoughts and correctness, and provide timely and appropriate support and assistance.
Faced with stress, women are often overwhelmed, nervous, and easily emotional.
At this point, she needs to speak up and let her out.At this time, the husband should listen quietly and give comfort and encouragement in time, which will make her feel much better.
For the wife, when the husband is silent, be considerate of his situation and mood.
In addition, although men are strong in appearance, most of them have fragile hearts. Therefore, the wife should know more about her husband, don’t bluntly teach, try to transform each other, but should tell him from time to time: you are doing well, I take youProud.
Such encouragement brings confidence to the husband and gratitude to the wife.
Erection hardness determines sex quality David?
Schonak is one of the outstanding sex therapists in the United States. His original “sex furnace” therapy combines sex therapy with marriage therapy.
“Unhappy families have their own misfortunes.
But one thing is absolutely the same, that is, the sexual life of couples in these families is difficult to satisfy.
“He believes that harmonious sex life is the lubricant of marriage.
The purpose of sex is not to breed offspring. It can better enable the husband and wife to communicate well in the mind, spark out the spark of love between the water and the milk, and move towards the pinnacle of happiness together.
The same principle applies to Petty and Allen.
“In the past four years, our sexual life has been unsatisfactory, with fewer and fewer times, and it is difficult for me to get pleasure.
Petty murmured, and Allen was reluctant to happen occasionally: “It’s not that I don’t want to have sex, but that I can’t.
After entering middle age, I find it more and more difficult to enter the state. A little stimulus can make key parts firm. Now I always feel a little soft, and the pleasure is not as good as before.
I feel that with her disappointment, it is better to come without hope.
“A foreign survey of more than 6,000 men in 27 countries shows that erection stiffness is a rigid indicator and an important requirement for a good sex life.
For men and women, one of the main reasons for dissatisfaction with sex is that men’s erections are not stiff enough and durable.
“The erection hardness of men can be divided into four levels, the first level is large but not hard, the second level is erection but can not reach the insertion hardness, the third level has a certain hardness, but not strong enough;Level 4 is straight and stiff.
“If the first-level hardness is almost a soft cloth, the second-level hardness is a rubber ball filled with water, the third-level hardness is a soft plastic rod, and only the fourth-level hardness is a filled, straight” solid ball. ”
Although both the third and fourth hardness can complete the sex life, in contrast to the former “Microsoft”, only the fourth hardness can guarantee long-lasting and smooth sex.
It can be said that hardness is the key factor determining the sexual pleasure of both parties.
”In situations like Allen, some” external forces “need to be absorbed to restore a satisfactory erection.
A simple, safe and effective method is to use PDE5 inhibitors such as Viagra.
This is also the method most men are most willing to use when improving their sexual life.
“Contributor to the MSNBC website sex column, sexual therapist Brian?”
Alexander took a trick.
Clinical studies have shown that Viagra may help most patients recover Grade 4 stiffness.
For example, 30% of first-level patients can recover to fourth-level erections, which can rise to 38% of second-level patients; as for third-level patients, as many as 76% of men can “regain their strength”.
96% of men are satisfied with the erectile stiffness that Viagra can achieve.
Allen and Petty have learned all aspects of improving their marriage life, and they must be greeted with a beautiful and happy future.
(This article is organized by Xu Liyan) Case: After ten years of marriage, Petty, who is no longer 41 years old, and Allen, 45, have been married for many years, have a lovely daughter, a three-story bungalow, and decent work.
Petty is a French teacher at the university, and Allen is a programmer at an IT company.
The acquaintance of the two was as clichéd but romantic as a romance.
That day, Petty was sitting in a cafe reading a magazine to pass the time. When he looked up, he found that a gentleman in the neighbourhood had left his mobile phone on the table, but the man was gone.
Well-intentioned Petty picked up her phone and chased out, and found the man who later became her husband, Allen, at the street crossing.
At the beginning of the marriage, the “mobile phone” is the “hidden code” of the couple. Once they quarrel, as long as whoever takes out the mobile phone and calls the other person, “Hey, may I have lost a mobile phone?”.
However, time is a killer, it brings wrinkles to the corner of Petty’s eyes, puts excess meat on Allen’s waist, and allows indifference and habits to cover marriage.
In the past, when Petty was washing the dishes, Allen would hug her from the back, now he would only watch TV in the living room; before, the two would whisper before going to bed and hug each other, but now it is just perfunctoryAsk each other’s work situation, and then fall asleep back to back; previously, Allen likes to wake Petty with a kiss early in the morning on the weekend, then slowly take off her clothes, let the sunshine witness each other’s tenderness . slowly, the twoLife is getting stranger.
After having children 4 years ago, they have not lived in a single life for a long time. In 2008, Petty and Allen’s marriage entered its tenth year.
They feared the variables of the future, and hoped to restore their intimacy again.
The Red Book interviewed several experts on marriage and sexual issues, and listed a “change plan” for Petty and Allen, hoping to use one week to bring their marriage back to life and welcome it happilyValentine’s Day in 2008.