3 to 8 year olds need psychological counselling the most
Case 1: Only a boy who is willing to wear black (Teddy male, 5 years old) Teddy made special compensation for going to kindergarten. Although his mother has been persisting for a year, Teddy has been struggling and crying in front of the kindergarten door every day.
Teddy’s mother said that the kindergarten teachers all reflected that Teddy’s collective sense and hands-on ability in the kindergarten were not good, and her temper was particularly bad.
The weirdest thing is that the child was never willing to wear black clothes, and he didn’t accept any other colors.
This behavior of Teddy is a typical situation of children’s psychological problems.
His various “weird” behaviors are nothing more than the reaction that the child feels that his opinions are not recognized.
If parents and teachers often take the initiative to care for him, don’t treat him as a “blame child”, and let him help everyone do things calmly, and imply that Teddy “you are competent”, this situation will be significantly improved.
The so-called children’s psychological problems refer to children’s psychological and behavioral problems, but they have not reached the level of long-term psychological disorders.
The 8-year-old child has a disparity in the chances of psychological problems, such as hyperactivity trends, anxiety, dependence on risk, and the possibility of losing.
Absolutely, about 50% of children will have a similar situation at this stage, but as long as they are found and groomed in time, they will never turn into serious psychological problems.
But if parents have no time to take care of their children, and the kindergarten, the management of the school is not user-friendly, it is very likely to cause various psychological problems.
Case 2: Stress is high, and the child is stammered (Bear bear male, 7 years old). In the second grade of this year, Bear is often ridiculed by other children in the class, because the bear always stutters when talking.
All day at school, bears usually only say three or two words, and they still stutter.
After class and lunch break, the bear always likes to find a corner to stay, his expression is full of wit.
In addition, he goes to the toilet very temporarily, running more than ten times a day.
”I don’t know how to raise such a son?
“Bear’s mother is cheerful, so strong, and very disappointed with the child’s series of performances.
According to her mother, before the age of 3, the bears were as cheerful and lively as other children, and they didn’t stutter when they just talked.
However, since attending this key elementary school, the obstacles in speaking have become bigger and bigger, until the stuttering is no longer possible, and the words are getting less and less.
It turns out that the bear’s parents attach great importance to their children’s academic performance. Because the children’s performance has been flat, they almost never praise the bear.
After returning home from school once, the child happily told his mother, “Today I offered . to . the drink in the classroom . drink . the water machine changed.
The teacher praised me.
Mother replied casually: “Learning is never good. What’s the use of doing some idle work?”
“The cub was there.
In fact, the “culprit” that Cubs became stuttered is their parents’ coercion policy.
For a long time, children’s self-esteem was contused and their self-confidence was replaced by a strong sense of self-esteem and inferiority.
His stuttering was not a physical cause, or was caused by excessive mental stress, which caused him a language disorder.
Case 3: No speculation, holding the iron ruler to chase the teacher (qiangqiang male 8 years old) forced to become a “high-risk character” in the school. If it wasn’t for the parents’ repeated pleadings, he would almost be dismissed by the school.
Just a month ago, Nichao Qiangqiang complained with the teacher because he couldn’t stand the criticism of the Chinese teacher.
During a class, he raised his hand and asked to answer the question, but the teacher did not call him several times.
After class, Qiangqiang and the teacher theory: “Why don’t you call me?
The teacher criticized him for being unruly.
Who knew Qiangqiang took an iron ruler from the pencil box and started chasing the teacher . The so-called child psychological problem refers to the child’s psychological and behavioral problems, but it has not reached the level of long-term psychological obstacles.
It turned out that Qiangqiang’s parents often quarreled with each other because of their feelings.
When he was a child, Qiangqiang would start crying, and gradually became numb, becoming a silent spectator.
Later, he would even help his mother in an attempt to play against his father.
After going to school, there was a contradiction between Qiangqiang and his classmates.
The school came forward to hire a professional psychological counselor.
The counselor believes that this is domestic violence that causes the child to feel insecure and violent, and it is a kind of child mental mania.
In childhood, parents were the first enlightenment teachers in their lives to learn and imitate. Parents’ words and deeds led to their children’s profound suggestion.
Living in an environment of frequent conflicts and domestic violence, children will have a strong sense of inferiority.
Being strong is an “excessive self” among inferiority children. When self-esteem and self-confidence are hit, frustration rises to violent resistance, which is a typical child’s psychological mania.
The new method of “playing fingers” for children’s psychological counseling, “playing fingers”, seems simple, but it can effectively correct some behavioral and learning disabilities of children.
The parents of this generation of parents now have to play a lot of games when they were young. They have to customize the rules of the game, such as throwing sandbags and hitting glass marbles.
But these games have been gradually eliminated, and now children’s toys are ready-made electric toys that can make sounds at the push of a button, etc.-in fact, it is these toys that affect the physical development of children.
Some parents want their children to write and do arithmetic at the age of three or four, but at this stage, the most important thing is to develop the ability to develop movements, that is, the ability to manipulate fingers.
Failure to develop this ability in a timely manner will result in brain dysfunction, which may cause children to often make troubles at home, poor self-control, impulsiveness, etc., and do not know how to express themselves properly in language, will only lose their temper, leading to increasingAffect children’s relationships.
In addition to sports-based sensory integration training, for children who have caused some degree of psychological harm and are unwilling to communicate with others, they can also help them re-establish social relationships by using dolls instead of real characters to perform small plays. “”Trauma” understands the meaning of the event.
So, when children behave abnormally in life, they may be a symptom of psychological problems that need to arouse the vigilance of parents?
In fact, the child’s learning situation has deteriorated significantly, his grades have dropped significantly, or the child’s interpersonal relationships have been greatly affected, including problems with other children, family members and loved ones.
In this case, the parent must first communicate with the child.
However, in the process of communication, remember to not ask “why”, because words like “why” make children blame and blame.
Parents should talk to their children like friends, and slowly analyze the reasons.
If there is still a problem with the communication between the parent and the child, parents are advised to seek help from a professional agency.
Usually, parents and children communicate well is the best way to avoid psychological problems.
Then, for children 3-8 years old, at least one day a week is a “family fun day”-this day parents should play with their children, and to create a harmonious and relaxed atmosphere, do not become a “learning replacement” meeting “, “Family Criticism”.
And, what to play, where to play, how to play, and so on, don’t just blindly contact the parents, listen to the child’s meaning first, and play more children’s favorite games.